Friday, July 2, 2010
Being married to someone younger...
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Why is there some much negativity and blame in my house?
So, now I am on a mission to better myself and my family. I am trying to be more positive. When someone on the road does something stupid I try hard not to cuss at them (it's not like they can hear me anyways) and I try to assume that they had a reason for what they did. I noticed that my kids get angry at stupid drivers now, too. This is not something I want them to learn from me. I also try not to tell my kids no. I know that sounds really dumb, but it makes me a feel better and they seem to respond in a more positive way. For instance: if my daughter asks if she can play outside and has not done her homework or whatever I say "sure, when you are done with 'whatever'" instead of "no". Now, to try to get my husband on board with this.
My biggest obstacle is revenge. My children and husband have this big issue with getting back at people. I swear my kids are mean to each other because this feel this need to prove who is bigger and badder! It is just a viscous cycle. This I have not found a remedy for. I am still working on that, but I have noticed that when I have a problem, the answer usually manifests itself in a magazine I get in the mail or a book that someone gives me to read.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Antidepressants, to take them or to not take them...
The other reason I have reservations is because I have tried antidepressants and have always had bad side effects. I knew not to take them, but I didn't want to seem crazier to the military. Now I am a civilian so I have the right to say no.
So here I am, wondering what to do. I don't have the time to research and implement "alternative" medicine, but I also do not want to take the short road with antidepressants. I wish I had a life style that allowed me to be a simple person with a simple life. I know that I could make it happen, but my family would hate me! Oh well...I guess I have to make a hard decision!
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Why is it easier to help others, but so hard to help yourself?
Monday, March 15, 2010
Hard Work vs. Personality
When did society start valuing what we consider to be people skills over honesty and hard work? For the 10 plus years that I worked I could never understand why I was never considered successful. I worked hard and knew my job better than 95 percent of the people. Now that I am a stay at home mom I am watching my husband go through the same thing. We have been given many books and websites to look at to try to "better" ourselves and make us more successful, but there is one thing that I have found to be true with success today. You have to be dishonest or have a great personality. One article I read about whatever number of laws of success had my jaw on the floor. It never said to work hard and be good at what you do. It said to take credit for the work of weaker people and allow your boss to think he is smarter than you and take the credit for your work (which was actually someone else's). All the while, stabbing everyone in the back and never lifting a finger. I guess it must be true that 90 percent of the people do 10 percent of the work and 10 percent of the people do 90 percent of the work. Another article I read said that you need to get people to like you in order to be successful. It also never mentioned hard work. My entire career I hated those people who spent all their work time schmoozing while I was working. I never understood how that worked. I guess if you stroke someone's ego enough then they will never look under the carpet to see the lies and deceit. I guess a person in this day in age has to make a choice, find a way to accept these unwritten rules of society and follow suit, or be a lowly working and be happy with doing all the work and never getting the respect you deserve. Now, there are those few individuals that honestly work hard and have great people skills, but for the rest of us we must chose.